The In-laws

[KommieKat]

I'm writing you from the in-laws house as it is the monthly gathering for dinner.
My father-in-law is a fantastic cook and should be rewarded and honored as a national asset to Honk Kong. He is a bit picky about food and will only eat Hong Kong or other style Chinese food.

Mother-in-law is a real nice and caring person. Always has a can of beer waiting for me when we visit even though they do not drink nor smoke.


I absolutely feel, without a doubt that you DO marry the family and you marry into the family, regardless how often you meet them.
They can make or break a relationship depending on how they treat you.

My first marriage was a disaster. My Japanese father-in-law was a Yakuza wanna be and I just could not stand his 'manly-man' attitude. To him it was:
1. Man 2. Japanese man and lastly 3. Human or humanity

The mother-in-law is an alcoholic and later actually turned into a Speed freak (Japan is the inventor of Speed which was used on the factory workers during the war years to pump out 18 hour days).

So, that being said, if you are thinking of marriage, take a deep and serious look at his/her parents because they can make for a bumpy ride or smooth sailing in your married life.


Anybody out there has something to add about their in-laws, please be my guest.

[Jenn]

My in-laws are good people. I love my mother-in-law, but I sometimes tolerate my father-in-law because he's mister know-it-all, and it pisses me off. He has called my mother neurotic because she has been having heart issues for quite some time, and actually went as far to tell me that it was all in her head.. he was singing a different tune when she had to have emergency open heart surgery because all of her arteries were 90% clogged, though. So I try not to have serious conversations with him because he's such a know-it-all. And he pressures me to have another boy because if my husband, or his other son doesn't have a boy, my son will be the last person to carry on the only spelling of their last name. I hope if I have more children, I have more girls. ;D

But all in all, they love their grandchildren, and very caring people.

[Titty]

I get along fine with my wife's family. I've never had words or issues with my father-in-law. He's a great guy. The mil is kind of a douche, but you just have to know how to deal with her to avoid conflict. She tends to be judgmental and quick to offer her opinion- which is more shoved in your face than offered. She's been rather well behaved the past couple years. Must be menopause.

I get along well with 2 out of my wife's 3 brothers. Coincidentally, the one closest in age to myself is the one I don't particularly care for. Call it a personality clash. He's a lowlife cocksucker and I'm not. This is the general consensus among most everyone, though. The others aren't like him at all. A bit quirky, but good people regardless.

I'd say out of everyone in her family, without a doubt I'm closest to my wife's younger sister. I adore her. She's an exceptional person with whom I've developed a deep connection over the years. We bonded almost instantly, and I credit this relationship with aiding the rest of the family in both accepting and being able to relate to me.

[Josie]

I get along fine with my wife's family. I've never had words or issues with my father-in-law. He's a great guy. The mil is kind of a douche, but you just have to know how to deal with her to avoid conflict. She tends to be judgmental and quick to offer her opinion- which is more shoved in your face than offered. She's been rather well behaved the past couple years. Must be menopause.

I get along well with 2 out of my wife's 3 brothers. Coincidentally, the one closest in age to myself is the one I don't particularly care for. Call it a personality clash. He's a lowlife cocksucker and I'm not. This is the general consensus among most everyone, though. The others aren't like him at all. A bit quirky, but good people regardless.

I'd say out of everyone in her family, without a doubt I'm closest to my wife's younger sister. I adore her. She's an exceptional person with whom I've developed a deep connection over the years. We bonded almost instantly, and I credit this relationship with aiding the rest of the family in both accepting and being able to relate to me.

That doesn't concern your wife at all? Innocent or not, it would put me a little on edge.

[Shade]

I think it's important, but only as far as both people really allow them to be in their lifes. Like my ex's mom was a horrable person. When we lived 2 hous away it never effected things. When we lived 15 mintes away it really destroyed alot of things. But i think it's really just important to the people themselfs. I dont think i would want to be in a relastionship that lets parents or shit come between. But i figure that could be fixed by communication.

But all in all, inlaws cause major fucking stress and mother in laws should all be shot because most meddle far to much or are just evil human beings who should of never been born.

[Titty]

That doesn't concern your wife at all? Innocent or not, it would put me a little on edge.

Nah. It's a totally platonic relationship. I've known her since she was 8 years old. She's 23 now. It's a unique situation most people have difficulty wrapping their mind around without the benefit of firsthand experience.

[Josie]

Nah. It's a totally platonic relationship. I've known her since she was 8 years old. She's 23 now. It's a unique situation most people have difficulty wrapping their mind around without the benefit of firsthand experience.

I'm confused. You've known your wife since she was 8 or the sister and *that's* the platonic relationship you're referring to?

I can't imagine that you'd stay married to someone you don't sleep with, however.

Anyways, sorry for hijacking, buddha. On topic:

I dislike my in-laws. A lot. Their idea of "working out an issue" involves a barbecue, lots of screaming, and head-shaking.

Like so --->

That is why I am moving very far away from them Well, that, and in the long run, it's better for my family (as in: the one I've created) to be in AK and NOT in TX where food and water relies solely on the presence of fossil fuels. That's another topic in itself though..

[KommieKat]

I think it's important, but only as far as both people really allow them to be in their lifes.

I'm involved with the traditional extended family (although we don't live together) as opposed to the nuclear.

She has one brother and three sisters. Younger one not married.
So that makes two more brother-in-laws.

These folks cannot wait to get together for the BBQ.
We even go across the border to bowl and go shopping.

Quite a different experience. No one smokes ( I do not) and no one drinks ( I do sometimes).

Oh, yes you are correct, it could depend on how deep you allow them to be in your life.

[Titty]

I'm confused. You've known your wife since she was 8 or the sister and *that's* the platonic relationship you're referring to?

I can't imagine that you'd stay married to someone you don't sleep with, however.

Sorry about that. My wording was a tad confusing there. I was referring to my sister in law.


And no, I wouldn't ever remain married to someone I wasn't getting any from. I'd drop the bitch like a fucking safe if she stopped putting out.

[JackBlack]

This thread is bringing tears to my eye's..

[Titty]

This thread is bringing tears to my eye's..

Are you sure you're not just grieving over your failures in life, Diablo?

[JackBlack]

Are you sure you're not just grieving over your failures in life, Diablo?

Now I have failures as well. Boy you know me like a book, Jake?